Most men inherently believe that they're better than women and without earning more to "prove" that their time is more valuable than their partners time, they act out in other expressions of dominance to position themselves above their higher earning partner.Ī woman marrying a man that makes less than her is statistically more likely to end up with a highly insecure male, who disproportionately burdens her in the relationship with infidelity, more domestic chores, and more financial responsibility. Their socialization to definition of manhood doesn't allow them to truly believe in an equal partnership. Men don't handle income disparity within a relationship well. Considering that when women earn more in the relationship, men do less housework and are more likely to cheat in the relationship. But I think some women don’t want to make the man feel uncomfortable or emasculated by any income discrepancy. Some women probably do it because of superficiality (“he can buy me more things!”). Some women probably seek a higher earning spouse because of pre-existing social norms and roles. So I can’t speak personally to looking for a higher earning man. I met my husband right after graduating from high school before I knew what our earning potential would be. Soon she’ll definitely be out-earning him by a significant margin.īut what did my mother-in-law ask? She didnt ask “what will do when she is earning more?” She asked: ”how will handle that?” But the man’s career seems to be plateauing, while the woman’s career has tons of upward mobility. They both have great careers and they’re climbing the ladder. This couple is really well-off financially. So if you're considering taking the next step in your relationship, it's extremely important to make sure you talk about potentially difficult subjects like credit card debt or student loans.My in-laws asked me and my husband about a couple we know the other day.
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